Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things
I must have read this Scripture countless times and heard several messages on it but the reality of its truth didn't really sink in until a few weeks ago. I must have been upset at something SO did but this thought came into my mind 'How could he love me and do this?' which was why I wrote the post on 'Making room for disappointment.' That thought made me ponder on how many similar statements passed through my mind from time to time, not only with SO but in my other relationships and areas as well. 'I think X did this because of Y and my response will be Z.' However if my thought 'Y' is wrong, my response 'Z' is more likely to be wrong.
When I find myself out of sorts about something, I tell myself 'transform your life from sadness to joy by renewing your mind.' I COMMUNICATE instead of ASSUME and bridge the distance between my thoughts and reality. The most important thing is that what I am thinking about must be true. How many times have I made a judgement on someone or something (without necessarily vocalising it) based on information that is simply not true?
When this is brought into relationships, it can gradually erode the intimacy. So many thoughts come into my mind at any given time. I'm learning to use a filter.