Thursday, 1 December 2011

The distance between my thoughts and reality...

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things

Phillipians 4:8

I must have read this Scripture countless times and heard several messages on it but the reality of its truth didn't really sink in until a few weeks ago. I must have been upset at something SO did but this thought came into my mind 'How could he love me and do this?' which was why I wrote the post on 'Making room for disappointment.' That thought made me ponder on how many similar statements passed through my mind from time to time, not only with SO but in my other relationships and areas as well. 'I think X did this because of Y and my response will be Z.' However if  my thought 'Y' is wrong, my response 'Z' is more likely to be wrong.

When I find myself out of sorts about something, I tell myself 'transform your life from sadness to joy by renewing your mind.' I COMMUNICATE instead of ASSUME and bridge the distance between my thoughts and reality. The most important thing is that what I am thinking about must be true. How many times have I made a judgement on someone or something (without necessarily vocalising it) based on information that is simply not true?

When this is brought into relationships, it can gradually erode the intimacy. So many thoughts come into my mind at any given time. I'm learning to use a filter.

Love. Learn.


  1. However if my thought 'Y' is wrong, my response 'Z' is more likely to be wrong.

    So true!! Great post...I really appreciate your thoughts on this.

  2. There are plenty of times throughout life when our minds and feelings get all twisted and turned in the wrong direction. It’s the confusion of life I suppose, and I suppose that marriages and long term relationships go through similar confusing moments. I know my marriage has. Whenever that’s happened in my life, I’ve sought prayer and faith in God. I've learned to remind myself that whatever is happening in my life, God will eventually lead me in the right direction. At personal levels, I've learned to communicate in all of my relationships, after all that is the best way to find out what exactly is going on. Don’t fall into a pattern of assuming what might be and then worse living too much with these assumptions that they eventually poison your relationship. I hope you’re able to find the right guidance during these stressful times. Good luck and keep your faith.Common Marriage Issues